Happy Father's Day

You taught me ART.

You taught me CHESS.

You taught me PATIENCE.

Thanks for being a man.

Thanks for encouraging me and telling me I was beautiful.

Thanks for being a FARTHER.

You were 54 years old when I was born. You didn't let that stop you from being a father.
You and my mom never married. You didn't let that stop you from being a father.


Dear men,
PLEASE don't EVER, EVER, EVER let the relationship between you and a female stop you from being in your child's life. Your daughter needs you just as much as your son needs you.

A girl that grows up without a father figure will always look to a man for validation and approval.
She will always feel like she's helpless, incompetent, inadequate and can't do anything without a man. She will always need a man to tell her that she is smart, that she is pretty, and that she is talented. She will always need a man to think for her, show her the way and make her feel worthy. Every decision that she ever makes in her life will be based off trying to satisfy and please a man. She'll probably have a bunch of children by a bunch of different men. Don't be surprised if you see her on Maury because she doesn't know who her child's father is. She'll think it's ohkay for a man to disrespect her, call her names and hit her. She will look for the father that she never had in every man that she meets. She'll be a follower that can't think for herself. She will always be insecure, have low self-esteem and low self-confidence and be jealous of other women. She'll go above and beyond to receive attention from a man, like dress provocative. She will always think she's less than a man and not his equal. She will bow down, worship and answer to her man like he's her Lord, Master, and Ruler. She'll always want and need a man to make her feel whole and complete.

A boy that grows up without a father figure will never know how to FULLY COMMIT to one woman. He'll see nothing wrong with dealing with several different women at once. He'll see nothing wrong with impregnating a bunch of different females and having no relationship with them. He'll never fully respect women. He'll think it's ohkay to assault and insult women and call them stupid bitches, dumb hoes, etc. He'll think it's okhay to sit around and be lazy and leach off of women. He'll always have an excuse to why he can't call you, why he can't text you, why he can't spend quality time with you, and why he can't be there for you when you need him to be. He'll always respect men (and trannies) more than he respects women. He'll always look for guidance from another man (his peers, friends, business partners, etc.) or else he'll be lost without them and can't think for himself. He'll be an ambivalent follower and a stalker. He'll hack into your e-mail, spy on you and tap your phone conversations because he's insecure, stupid, and has low self-esteem and don't know what real men do when they like a woman. He'll never fully mature into a real man because he's never had one show him what's required of a man. He'll NEVER be a gentleman. He'll need a woman to show him how to be a gentleman, how to be soft-spoken and compassionate. He'll use his "shyness" as an excuse for why he has no balls and no courage to talk to people. He'll look up to people like athletes, pimps, rappers, gangbangers and drug dealers as role models. Don't be surprised if you catch him in a wig, dress, lipstick and a thong because he's been surrounded by so many females all his life. He'll never care about the people he hurts, offends, and lies to because there will never be a man there to correct his wrongs and tell him "THAT'S NOT RIGHT SON, YOU DON'T DO THAT." More than likely his mom will condone all the bullshit he does because that's her son. He will say one thing and do another and NEVER live up to his word. He'll probably be a deadbeat father to his kids the same way his father was to him because he won't know what it means to be a father. He'll go through life being careless, irresponsible and rambunctious, saying and doing whatever he pleases without taking other people's feelings into consideration because he'll never be afraid of letting his father down.

There's a theory that most women are attracted to men that remind them of their fathers and most men are attracted to women that remind them of their mothers. That may be true to a certain extent.
Too bad I've NEVER met a man that even came close to being the equivalent of the man that my father was......to being the honest, talented, intelligent, honorable, caring, dedicated, respected, admirable, patient, responsible, mature GENTLEMAN that he was. He set the bar real high for all of you niggas.

To all of you single mothers out there that believe you are your child's "mother and father". I'm sorry sister but you are NOT. No matter how rough, tough and strong you are, you still will NEVER be able to teach a boy how to be a man. How can you teach someone how to be something that you are not yourself??? ONLY A MAN CAN TEACH A BOY HOW TO BE A MAN.

Any man can make a baby. But not all of you are FATHERS. It takes a real man to be a father/farther.

~ Happy Father's Day to all ~